Last night I turned on the television.
I watched people arguing like ill-mannered children.
I could stomach about five minutes of it.
Nothing being shared was feeding my soul.
People were speaking who are in positions of political stature and supposed service. The words coming out of their mouths were self-centric.
They had abandoned common courtesy and refused to let others finish their sentences.
They used words to demean the other person, the “opposition.”
There was nothing heart-based or authentic about it.
This is called discernment, and it is far different from judgment.
Discernment is a feeling and a knowing. It is quiet, humble.
Judgment is a need to be right. It is a loud need to prove one’s self as more worthy than another. It stems from a deep inner sense of unworthiness.
Many leaders suffer from this sense of unworthiness. They use their loud voices and ill manners to overpower their “opponents.”
They propagate belief in division by appealing to the unworthiness of their followers and seeding more opinions, one-sided beliefs, and judgments into other people’s minds.
With this popular approach, there is zero hope for harmony among humanity.
Masses are fooled into thinking that these boisterous voices care for the collective good.
As one who has worked in Springfield and Washington D.C., I have seen the depressing truth.
As one who has traveled the world and met people of various backgrounds, I have seen the truth.
Most people are unknowingly blinded by a deep sense of unworthiness; everything they do is about proving their worth.
In this way, they act self-centeredly and will cannot have clear discernment of the greater good.
On a subconscious level, they are blinded by what they want and believe they need.
They act and speak to gain the approval of those whose approval means a lot to them.
For this reason we have lies and corruption everywhere in the world, everywhere in our communities, everywhere in the media.
Everything is a smokescreen, none of us know what is real.
The only thing that can be trusted is heart-based discernment and intuition. But we cannot access our heart’s intuition if we are carrying a deep sense of unworthiness.
We aren’t so different than self-serving politicians and media personalities.
That’s why the general public has become so addicted to watching the toxicity every day: because it is a reflection of our own need to judge, of our addiction to negative emotions, of our relentlessness to distinguish ourselves through dualistic beliefs that are so far from the unifying truth.
There is big business in keeping us attached to dualistic beliefs which conquer and divide. Big business which has become the cornerstone of religion, government, and even public service.
What can you do about it?
We cannot create change by judging the outside world, nor by trying to force the world to align with our subjective views.
But we can deal with the aspects of ourselves that make us addicted to judgment and division.
Over the next week, observe your behaviors and conversations.
Choose a twenty minute time span in which you observe yourself having conversations, interacting, or performing at work.
Then ask yourself this: “What am I trying to prove by saying this?”
“What am I trying to prove by doing this?”
“How am I trying to appear by behaving or speaking in this way?”
“How do I want this person to perceive me?”
“What validation am I seeking?”
“Whose approval does my life revolve around?”
Make many discoveries about yourself.
Do not judge yourself.
You may will realize how your life is all about proving your worth because you feel unworthy in some way.
Every human has this condition. But we will never see inner peace and outer harmony until we bring awareness to it.
Only then will we have the capacity to discern what is for the collective good, rather than how to gain validation.